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Dating Abuse:
Understanding Dating Abuse
Who Is At Risk

Warning Signs:
Am I at Risk?
Is My Friend a Victim?
Is My Teen in Danger?

Abuse, Power, and Control:
The Power & Control Wheel
The Cycle of Abuse

Breaking Free:
Escaping Bad Relationships
Getting Yourself Out
Assisting a Friend
Helping Your Teen

Get Help:
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First off, congratulations on wanting to leave this relationship. It takes a lot of courage and strength to want to leave, and we applaud you on making this first step. When a victim is leaving an abusive relationship, there are a few things they should remember.

Although the abuser may have tried to keep you isolated from your friends and family, try to break free of that and keep communication lines open. No matter what has happened between you, your family and friends due to this relationship, does not mean that they will not be there to help you leave it all behind. Remember that they want to help you, not hurt you. It is always easier to take big steps in life when you are surrounded by a safety net of people who love you.

Leaving the relationship will be hard but trust in yourself and those around you. Constantly remind yourself of the reasons why you wanted to leave in the first place and why this relationship was harmful, not helpful. During this time a rush of emotions may come to you such as sadness, loneliness and even anger, however remind yourself that these feelings are normal and that it is okay to be upset. Talk to friends, family or seek professional help to assist you in making sense of your feelings. Doing this will help you understand that the abuse was not your fault.

When a victim leaves an abusive relationship, it is the most vulnerable time for them, so try to create a safety plan for you with friends and family. Remember: it is always better to be safe than sorry. Try keeping yourself busy with things that are important to you such as school, sports and extra-curricular activities.

You will soon find out how busy and healthy your life can be once you have left the relationship! Make this time about yourself and treat yourself well. Go out with friends or see a movie with your parents. You deserve to feel good!

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